Life is all about Choices

Alice came to the fork in the road.
 “Which road do I take?” she asked.
  “Where do you want to go?” responded the Cheshire cat.
 “I don’t know,” Alice answered.
 “Then,” said the cat, “it doesn't matter.”

 Lewis Carroll
 Alice in Wonderland

As any adult knows, life is filled with choices.
Throughout our lives we often find ourselves standing at the end of a road,
wondering whether or not we should turn left or right.
Sometimes we find ourselves on the same road we've been traveling down,
yet we find ourselves yearning to take a turn down a different street.
The wonderful thing is that we have a choice.
Unfortunately, the hardest thing is also the fact that we have a choice.
So often we come to a place in our lives where we can decide whether we want something to stay the same or we want our lives to change,
and it can be really difficult to make large, life-changing decisions.

No matter what you're faced with, making big life decisions is never easy.
In fact, it's one of the most challenging things about life.
But it's also one of the most amazing things about life.
There are people in this world that have no choice at all.
They have no options and no outlets for change.
As terrifying as change and choice can be at times, can you imagine how terrifying it would be not to have the ability to choose?
Thanks god that we are all fortunate to have the ability to choose and it's up to us to make the most of the options and do what we can to choose wisely.

-PositivelyPresent

lifeless

since when my life become so lifeless?
wake up in the early morning, brush up and rush to work, waiting for lunch time, off from work, bath, dinner and prepare to sleep, all these become my daily routine.
we all work for the sake of money,
and without money , we dont have a life.

Give me a life!
I wan to go travel all around the world until i have no place to go, i wan to go beach and relax but i wish not to get tanned, i wan to shop until i dont feel like to shop anymore, i wan to have tea time with frens until i get bored with all the desserts, coffee or maybe frens, i wan to sleep until i feel like waking up.

thats my wishlist. which can nvr be fulfilled. i shud just forget it and off to bed. :)

anyway, its just depends on how we think about it,
in another way round, we shud be appreciate that we own a life although its lifeless, we have a job although its low-paid & boring, we have 1 hour lunch time although its just 1 hour,  we get to sleep although its just few hours.

Thing goes differently if we think it differently , so i shud be appreciate , be cheerful and off to bed again :)

【人原來要的這麼簡單】

【人原來要的這麼簡單】

有一個富翁得了絕症，他覺得自己將不久人世，心中很難過。後來，

他去請教一位隱居的名醫。
名醫為他把脈診斷後說：「這病除了一個辦法外，無葯可醫，我這裡有三帖葯。你依續照做，一帖做完再打開另一帖。」

(一)、富翁回到家, 打開第一帖，上面寫著：「請你到一處沙灘，躺下30分鐘，連續21天。」

富翁半信半疑，還是照做了，結果每次一躺就躺了2個小時。
因為他很忙碌，所以從來沒有這麼舒服過。聽著風，聽著海和海鷗的鳴叫。

(二)、第22天, 他打開第二帖，上面寫著：「請在沙灘上找5隻魚或蝦或貝，將牠們丟回海裡，連續21天。」

富翁滿心懷疑，但還是照做了，結果每次將小魚蝦丟回海裡時, 他卻莫名地感動。

(三)、第43天，他打開第三帖，上面寫著：「請隨便找一根樹枝，在沙灘上寫下所有不滿和怨恨的事。」

當他寫完沒多久, 海浪漲潮就把那些字沖刷掉了, 他突然頓悟而感動的哭了。回家後, 他覺得全身舒暢, 很輕鬆而自在, 甚至不再怕死了。

原來，人因為學不會三件事, 所以會不快樂:

一.休息 二.付出 三.放下

明年，你还爱我么?

明年妳还爱我吗？

梁静茹结婚了。

证婚人是李宗盛，伴娘是戴佩妮，蔡健雅。

玛莎没有收到婚礼邀请，他说他不会去。

她和玛莎就这样形同陌路了。

梁静茹最终也没有和玛莎在一起。

那阵子，刘烨结婚了。

他在婚礼前，把自己关起来哭了好长时间。

曾经说著：“这辈子最幸福的事，就是娶谢娜，只要她愿意嫁给我，我现在就可以娶她“ 的人就这样和另外一个女人结婚了。

刘烨说，他一辈子都不会忘了谢娜。

可是这样的话听著都会觉得伤感。

刘烨最终也没有和谢娜在一起。

那个说著非谢娜不娶的刘烨，也结婚了，娶了一个法国女人。

看著谢娜的自传裡有一部分是说她和刘烨的。

6年的感情让她们彼此都成长了不少。

谢娜说他们在大家都不看好的时候坚强的在一起，却在大家都对他们祝福的时候分开了。

6年！

那个说著非李大齐不嫁的周迅，也单身了。

不知道是为什么，只知道，他们5年的感情，会成为他们彼此生命中最精彩的时光。

5年！

之前辛晓琪在演唱会上，再次唱响那首“领悟“时，哭的如此伤心，痛彻心扉。

辛晓琪最终也没有和爱的人在一起，想必是真的领悟了。

我们，一直都是在输给时间。

所以说，这年头，还有什么能让我们动心，让我们相信呢。

陈昇曾做过件很煽情的事。

他提前一年预售了自己演唱会的门票，仅限情侣购买，一人的价格可以获得两个席位。

但是，一份情侣券分为男生券和女生券。

恋人双方各自保存属于自己的那张券，一年后，两张券合在一起才能奏效。

票当然卖得很快，也许这个是恋人双方证明自己爱情的方式吧。

“我们要在一起一辈子呢。”

“一年，算什么。”

……

这场演唱会的名字叫做：明年你还爱我吗？

听似很简单的疑问句，实现起来，却被赤裸裸的现实击败。

到了第二年，陈昇专设的情侣席位，果然空了好多位子。

他面对著那一个个空板凳，脸上带著怪异的歉意，唱了最后一首歌：把悲伤留给自己

去年我们曾牵手走过很多地方，在车站拥抱，一起看电影，往彼此的嘴巴里塞零食和饮料，一起幻想明年的这个时候，甚至是很多很多年以后，我们在干嘛，要干嘛。

可是感情的脆弱我们谁也想不到。

这一秒幸福，下一秒就可以崩溃。

恋情，崩盘起来，往往太措手不及。

再多的甜言蜜语，累积起来也敌不过分手两个字。

世界上有太多的悲哀。

曾经多么骄傲的要一起幸福一辈子，到头来却剩下自己。

不想再奢望什么了，一个人静静的躲在角落裡，欣赏你们的幸福。

夜的黑暗与我做伴，躲在被窝裡，真的体会到了思念的痛，痛却不能说...

其实自己不是那么矫情的，其实难过不想告诉任何人的...

渐渐发现，痛，就自己忍著。

即使说，也无从说起...

只想问，你能爱我多久...

相恋多年的人们就这样形同陌路，彼此生活。

或许，他们并不是不爱对方了，而是不能给对方各自要的生活。

应该相信，他们或许依然爱著对方。

只是，一个不懂得怎么去爱，一个相爱却无能为力。

生活就是这样，最终相守到老的人，也许并不是那个曾经许下山盟海誓，承诺白头偕老，暗自发誓这辈子只爱她一个的人。

终究，终究时间会带走一切。

到底是什么让我们鬆开了彼此的手？
到底是什么让我们放弃了自己，放弃了对方？

会一直说真的没什么，然后又对著别人的故事沉默。

表面终究会归于平静，只是内心的波涛汹涌却不为人知。

只有自己才知道，谁是自己真正爱的那个人，谁又是伤了自己的那个人。

所以最后的最后，当我们都有了彼此的归属，你只能是我记忆中模糊地剪影而已。

一个女人突然决绝的跟相爱五年的男友分了手，闪电般嫁了他人。

她说她要结婚，她实在等不起了，而他虽然爱她，却根本没有一点这方面的意思。

过了几年，男人也结婚了。

那个新娘其实未必比她出色多少，或者这一次他的爱有多么深，只不过她出现的时机实在太好了，刚刚好在他萌生倦意想安定下来的时候。

于是，不需要什么更好的理由了，她来得正是时候，那么，就是她了。

其实我们寻寻觅觅了那么久，遍嚐每一次爱情的甜蜜与艰辛，而最后选择的爱人，不过就是在我们心意动时，经过身边的那一个。

什么青梅竹马，什么心有灵犀，什么一见锺情，都不过是些锦上添花的藉口，

时间才是冥冥中一切的主宰。

回首往事的时候，想起那些如流星般划过生命的爱情，我们常常会把彼此的错过归咎为缘分。

其实说到底，缘分是那么虚幻抽象的一个概念，

真正影响我们的，往往就是那一时三刻相遇与相爱的时机。

男女之间的交往，充满了犹疑忐忑的不确定与欲言又止的矜持，一个小小的变数，就可以完全改变选择的方向。

如果你出现的早一点，也许她就不会和另一个人十指紧扣;又或者相遇的再晚一点，晚到两个人在各自的爱情经历中慢慢学会了包容和体谅，善待和妥协。

在你最美丽的时候，你遇见了谁？
在你深爱一个人的时候，她又陪在谁身边？
在你心灵最脆弱的时候，又是谁在与她同行

爱情到底给了你多少时间，去相遇和分离，去选择和后悔？

重温“大话西游”看到紫霞深爱至尊宝的时候，他心心念念的寻找他的白晶晶，而当他终于看到了她留在心裡的那一滴泪，却已经失去了选择的权利。

每一次看到他潜入另一个人的身体，去偿还前世欠她的一句承诺，再看他在夕阳下孤独的走远，总是情不自禁的想要落泪。

不是不心动，不是不后悔，但已经没有时间，再去相拥。

如果爱一个人而无法在一起，相爱却无法在适当的时间相遇，如果你爱了，却爱不对时间，除了珍藏那一滴心底的泪，无言的走远，你又能有什么选择？

时间的荒野，没有早一步也没有晚一步，

于千万人之中，去邂逅自己的爱人，那是太难得的缘分，

更多的时候，我们只是在彼此不断的错过，错过了杨花飘飞的春，又错过了枫叶瑟索的秋，

直到漫天白雪，年华不再，

在一次次的心酸感叹之后，才能终于了解。

即使真挚，即使亲密，即使两个人都已是心有戚戚，我们的爱，依然需要时间来成全和考验。

这世界有著太多这样那样的限制与隐秘的禁忌，又有太多难以预测的变故和身不由己的离离合合，一个转身，也许就已经一辈子错过。

多年以后，才会参透所有的争取和努力，都抵不过命运开的一个玩笑。

上帝在云端只眨了一眨眼，所有的结局，就都已经完全改变......


感触：
这一秒幸福，下一秒就可以崩溃。
恋情，崩盘起来，往往太措手不及。
再多的甜言蜜语，累积起来也敌不过分手两个字。
其实我们寻寻觅觅了那么久，
遍嚐每一次爱情的甜蜜与艰辛，
而最后选择的爱人，
不过就是在我们心意动时，经过身边的那一个.
时间才是冥冥中一切的主宰..
在一起了七年,五年,三年,一年,
经历了再多再多, 
你的爱再深再深,
下一秒钟却已不算什么, ,

但明年，你还爱我么？

2013

i always wanted to update my blog but never take actions, since i m free in the office now, decided to update some small little tiny things that happened in my life. share and record it so next time i can review what i have done in few years back.

2013, is a year of snake, which is my year, that is mean this year i m already stepped into 24 years old. how scary when i see the figure, 24 is not a big issue, the issue is what i achieved after 24 years? the answer is NOTHING, this is what i always worried, graduated since 2011 which is 2 years ago, and now i m still wondering whether i m in the correct field, does this current working field suits me? hmm.. i dont think so! my career and financial is still unstable for now.and of course i know that 'Things only can be changed when action taken', So i decided to shoot out my CV and continue to look for my interest. hope i will get one by this year. WIsh me Luck YA!

the 23rd birthday

i m 23 years old now,
time flies, yet i m still like a little girl.
but the reality does not allow me to behave like a girl,
thousand of burden lay on me, and i have to force myself to bear with it.

i m not the always lucky one, but i m still lucky person,
at least i m healthy and i am able to do thing on my own but not relying on others,
although life always tough for me, but i m glad, coz i have my frens and my family,
they all gave me mentally, physically and financially support.

this year, i had done several decisions,
on car , house.
i bought my very 1st car by my own, the car is not expensive, in fact its a local production, and i commited 9 years on it with only RM5k down-payment (which is my hard-earned money,RM1.2k was borrowed from frens). without buying it, i couldn't even go for work.
and here i had my very 1st house, which is forced by my mom to buy it,
the location is not the good one, a bit outskirt and isolated but hope it will be well developed soon, and i believes it gonna takes a very long time..and now i have car loans and property loan, heavy burden all imposed on me,
i m suffocating, yet my little salary seriously cannot afford to pay all the installment.
so i need a makeover on my career, and i m still figuring which field i should go for. 
i hope my decision wasn't wrong and wont be wrong.

back to the topic, i should have talk more about my birthday,
this year is fine, frens took me for brithday dinner, lunchie, and a small surprise.
i m glad to have all of you in my life story. thanks for everything, i truly appreciates.
and my birthday wishes are :-
to be rich , to be successful, to be happy , to be healthy, to have you all in my life and to be blessed.

thanks you guys for spending time on me..
all the best in our future and keep the frenship till the end of the world (Probably 21/12/2012 ?)

我虽不是完美，
但相信是独特的
你若不珍惜，
我不会留恋，
但愿你马上离开我，
别来破坏我原来完美的生活!